What happen next is you are facing two choices. Firstly, go on with your life and forget him/her. Secondly, ask him/her to be back into your arms. Both choice is yours, but you are facing a dilemma. You just can't decide it well, too much emotion and opinion around you. Some suggest you to choose the first choice, others suggest the second.
For the first choice, it is what is most friends will tell you, especially when it is your ex fault. However, this is the harder choice to choose, because you miss your ex. It is worsen if the break up reason is because of your fault. What you need then is to consider it carefully, both emotionally and logically. Logical reason is what your friends mostly do to encourage you. On the other hand, love is not about logical, it is your feelings, your emotion. How your feeling is toward your ex is important either. Never consider only by either of them.
The second choice is more complicated. Why it is complicated? Because you need to take an action then. Your friend might back you up, giving you the "don't give up" cheers. But what to do when it is your ex fault, should you ask him/her to be back? If it is your fault, should you apologize, beg, and cry in front of your ex? The answer is only one question, don't.
So, just say you choose the second choice. How would you do it? It's an important question, because if you choose the wrong ones it won't be helpful, it will make it even worse. You have known about don't apologize, beg, and cry; especially in the same time to your ex. It MIGHT help, but it could be worse. If your ex is already hate you, your act might disturbs. It gives feeling that you are annoying. You might get your ex back, but your act will put you into the guilty place. Your pride is falling in front of your ex; therefore, you might be dominated. The worst thing is when you are getting back just for pity reason. Pitiful, it is.
One thing to do if the break up is your fault is by apologizing. Make sure to do it as fast as possible after your break up. It is easier to forgive when the problem is still new. The longer the problem is, the harder it is to fix. While time is running, any problem that comes up will make it looked worse. Besides, by the time goes by he will start to think about your flaws all the time. It is not good, in the end your ex will lost his/her feeling towards you.
What if it is your ex fault? I'll say it is complicated. I can only say, don't say that you will change for him/her. You must not beg and cry in front of your ex. You must keep your pride high or your ex might take advantage of you.
Strategies are needed. For this, don't waste your time to be confused. Choose the link appropriate below, understand it, and practice it. Hope it helps.
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